Matrimony not the key to happiness
Published: Wednesday, October 17, 2012
Updated: Wednesday, October 17, 2012 15:10
A woman often dreams about the special day in her life where she says the words “I do” to the man standing across from her while she smiles and holds her expensive bouquet of flowers.
She is also likely to imagine how lavish her wedding will look with the expensive food, flowers, location, decorations and the beautiful dress she plans to wear.
It is a fantasy that has taken over the minds of women.
They focus only on the advantages of getting married rather than the true meaning behind it.
Marriage is meant to be about choosing to spend the rest of your life with someone you love and want to be with.
Now, it seems marriage is a way for some women to be spoiled rotten.
Perhaps it is due to the benefits of having the power to customize the wedding from top to bottom.
This includes choosing the venue and inviting all of her closest girlfriends to be bridesmaids and follow her around 24/7.
The bride gets to design the entire ceremony and who will come to watch her on her big day.
This is brought to light every day thanks to the popularity of current reality television wedding shows where viewers can get an inside look at the eventful weeks or months leading up to a couple’s wedding day.
Shows like “Bridezilla” have the bride lashing out at friends, family and even the groom.
They display the bride-to-be throwing fits over the smallest problems, as she claims she is more important than everyone else because she is the one getting married.
“Platinum Weddings” takes a different approach by focusing on the entire process of planning the ceremony.
Each episode centers on a couple and details the amount of money they spend.
For some couples, $100,000 is spent just on flowers alone and another couple spends more than $150,000 on jewelry.
On “Platinum,” the cost of one couple’s wedding totaled more than $1.5 million.
It is baffling to think someone would waste a million dollars on one day.
With situations like this and the divorce rate being more than 50 percent in America, it is hard to determine whether women marry for love or the wedding itself.
There are women who would choose to marry a man they want to be with for the rest of their lives and could care less about how luxurious their wedding looks.
The problem is they are being bombarded by the materialistic ones.
There are women who would rather worry about locating the perfect venue than focus on the men they could spend the rest of her lives with.
It seems the significance of marriage has diminished over time.
Just recently, Kim Kardashian married, and then divorced, NBA player Kris Humphries — in just 72 days.
More than $10 million spent on that sham of a wedding went down the drain so Kardashian could be a bride for a day and have the spotlight brightly on her.
While a wedding is nice to have, it is not the most important part of getting married for a woman.
It’s about finding the right guy to share the rest of life with.
Women today, however, only seem to care about finding any man available so he can put a ring on her finger so she can play wedding planner.

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